One of the most common desires for spouses going through a divorce is to reenter the dating scene and pursue a romantic relationship with someone else. Whether a person is looking to “rebound” so to speak or simply see someone new with the hopes of establishing a lasting relationship down the line, dating during divorce can often be a risky proposition. Dating before your divorce is final can carry some major downsides and cost you both financially and emotionally in the long run.
Reasons to hold off dating until your divorce is complete include:
- Infidelity: As far as the courts are concerned, you are still married until the moment your divorce is finalized. If your state recognizes fault as a grounds for divorce, seeing someone else may possibly be seen as adultery and put you at a severe disadvantage during both property division and alimony negotiations. Even if you were the perfect spouse during your marriage, being caught dating someone else can make you appear to have questionable morals to the court.
- It can worsen tensions: Divorce is already an emotional rollercoaster. Dating someone else during the process may be seen as rubbing salt in your soon-to-be ex-spouse’s wounds and further complicate your situation.
- It can hurt your kids: If you and your spouse have children, it is highly likely that you make an effort to maintain an amicable relationship with your ex-spouse as you will likely still have to see them on a somewhat regular basis. Not only can dating during divorce poison this spirit of cooperation, but it can also cause your children to side with your ex and further complicate your custody arrangement. Your kids will need you to focus on them during this time – not a new boyfriend or girlfriend.
- It can ruin your new relationship: While you may have a strong connection with your new significant other, it is important you wait to pursue an active relationship to avoid getting them involved in your divorce. If your relationship should become known, both you and your dating partner will be placed under intense scrutiny of the courts, which is a quick way to put a damper on things between you.
If you are involved in a new relationship during your divorce or are considering pursing one, it is important you speak with a skilled Boca Raton divorce attorney from Schuttler, Greenberg & Mullins, LLC to determine your legal options. With more than 75 years of combined legal experience and certifications as Board Certified Specialists in Marital & Divorce Law, our team of knowledgeable professionals can provide the guidance you need to navigate through your situation with ease.
Call (561) 336-6082 or contact us online today to discuss your case in full detail.