Stress during a divorce, and the ensuing chaos, is inevitable, but it doesn’t need to control your life. As a parent, it’s important to take time to deal with stress not only for the sake of your children, but for yourself. Stress can negatively impact your mental health, weight, blood pressure and sleep. Fortunately, there are many things you can do to minimize the stress of divorce.
1. Identify the Source(s)
Stress management starts with identifying the sources of stress in your life. The problem is that it’s not always as straightforward as you think. While you may be worried and upset about the divorce and any child custody issues you’re dealing with, something else could be the root cause of the stress you’re experiencing; for example, it could be finances or an aspect of the relationship that’s bothering you most. Look closely at your habits, attitude and excuses to pinpoint the sources of your stress.
2. Focus on what You Can Control
While you can’t control what your ex-spouse does or says, you can control how you react. Don’t let the stress paralyze you. Do what’s within your power and let it build your confidence. Let go of what you can’t control.
3. Allow Yourself to Feel
It’s normal to feel angry, upset, sad, anxious, confused and frustrated during a divorce. Accept the emotions, allow yourself to feel them and understand that they will lessen over time. Suppressing emotions may lead to mental fatigue, insomnia, elevated blood pressure, weight gain, and digestive problems.
4. Take a Break
There’s nothing wrong with taking a break from your divorce, your ex-spouse or even your children. Take time to heal and reenergize, as these will contribute to your parenting abilities and your personal life.
5. Talk to a Therapist
Sharing your feelings with friends and family can be helpful, but an outside perspective can go a long way in healing the wounds from a tough custody battle. A therapist can address your issues and provide a plan to overcome them.
6. Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle
Stress can take a toll on your physical (and mental) health, but there are ways to combat it. Start by avoiding your typical vices: alcohol, caffeine and nicotine. These stimulants may increase your stress levels. Next, start exercising. A daily run around the block can help combat excessive stress hormones. Finally, get more sleep. Avoiding stimulants and getting exercise will help with your sleep, which you need plenty of in order to function.
7. Do What You Enjoy
A divorce doesn’t mean your life should stop. Reconnect with the things you enjoyed before the separation, such as painting, hiking or scuba diving. Maybe there’s a new hobby you’ve been wanting to try – mpw is the time to do it!
Going through a divorce or child custody case is a stressful and emotional process. At Schuttler, Greenberg & Mullins, LLC, we understand and want to bring calm during this difficult time. Our experienced Boca Raton divorce attorneys offer personalized representation to clients throughout the area, including Palm Beach and Broward Counties.
Call us at (561) 336-6082 or contact us online to request a consultation.