Divorce has a way of turning your life completely upside-down. If you’re like most people going through a divorce, someone who you once thought the world of has turned into an adversary or an enemy, or at least someone who you are not a fan of. What’s more, the divorce process alone can turn people against each other.
If you have children with your ex, you’re going to have to establish a co-parenting relationship regardless of how you feel about each other and this is much easier to accomplish if you two can get along. But the question is, can you and your ex ever become friends after divorce?
Starting Fresh After the Divorce
We’ve all heard divorce horror stories that involved a string of affairs, a secret second family, children from extramarital affairs, bankruptcy, gambling addictions, and so on. “Have you heard how Rob and Theresa are such good friends after the divorce?” just isn’t as newsworthy as a divorce scandal, so people don’t hear about exes becoming good friends after a divorce nearly as often.
Even if you had a bitter divorce, it is possible to develop a healthy, post-divorce relationship. It’s even possible to gulp, become “friends” after a divorce. To do this, it’s important to set each other’s differences aside and start fresh. In fact, some formerly married couples become better friends after they’re freed from the marital bonds that tied them.
One of the best ways for divorced parties to establish a friendship or at least a healthy relationship for their children’s sake is to treat each other with dignity and respect. Those are the key ingredients for success. After all, one of the reasons we have manners is to help smooth out awkward situations, and a post-divorce relationship is certainly one of those situations where former couples have no choice but to interact with each other.
When exes can manage to treat each other nicely after divorce, they may find that a true friendship develops naturally and sometimes it’s one that lasts a lifetime.