Now that it’s November, the holiday season kicks off in a matter of weeks. Soon, people’s lives are going to be about turkey, ham, stuffing, eggnog, pumpkin pie, Black Friday deals, work celebrations, Hanukkah, Christmas traditions, and other holiday fun. While this can all be exciting for most people, it can be a real drag when it’s your first holiday after separating from your spouse, the mother or the father of your children.
If you’re on the road to divorce and you have yet to address child custody during the holidays, you probably have questions. Will you have to spend the holidays without your children? Will you be all alone on Christmas? Will you still be able to celebrate time-honored family traditions during the holidays? In this article, we explain how most divorced parents decide to handle child custody during the holidays.
Option #1: Alternating Holidays
One of the most common solutions for divorcing parents is to simply alternate holidays each year. For example, Dad gets the kids every Thanksgiving Day and on Christmas Eve and these rotate each year with the children’s mother. This type of arrangement also works well with high-conflict families who are not ready to be flexible with each other.
In high-conflict scenarios, it’s very important that parents stick to whatever it says in the divorce agreement about child custody during the holidays. Hopefully, as time goes by, the parents will regain trust in each other and be more accommodating.
Option # 2: Spending Holidays Together
Are you still friend with your ex? Are you on good terms with each other? In low-conflict families, it can be a great idea to simply continue celebrating the holidays together, as one big happy family. And when significant others enter the picture, they can be invited too! When you have children together, this arrangement can be very healthy and positive.
“What if neither option 1 or 2 work for my family?” That’s okay too. The family courts understand that no two families are alike and that all families don’t fit into the same mold. If you have a unique situation, for example, you live on opposite coasts, or you tend to travel for work around the holidays, this can be accounted for in your divorce agreement.
To learn more about child custody in a divorce, contact The Law Office of Schuttler, Greenberg, & Mullins today.