It’s no secret that thousands of marriages end every year because of infidelity and financial problems. Others unravel because of substance abuse, gambling, domestic violence, and various forms of emotional abuse. But that’s not all. Countless marriages break under the strain of seemingly harmless everyday issues that put so much stress on a marriage that eventually, someone can’t take it anymore and they walk away.
In this article, we discuss some of the most common (but less talked about) causes of marital discord that lead to divorce. Do any of these points resonate with you?
1. I’m Not Attracted to My Spouse Anymore
There is plenty of research that talks about spouses gaining an average of 27 or more pounds during a marriage. This usually happens because spouses get comfortable with each other and they stop worrying about being “marketable.” If you and your spouse gained a significant amount of weight during the marriage, it may be directly impacting your love life. And when there’s a lack of “romance,” it can be detrimental to a marriage.
2. We Grew Up and Apart
If you married in your early 20s and you both grew up and apart, that’s not uncommon. People go through a lot of changes in their 20s and 30s. Sometimes, they’re practically different people by the time they hit 40. If you and your spouse changed dramatically over the years and now you have nothing in common and it’s making you resent your marriage, what you’re experiencing is not unusual. It happens to a lot of couples, especially as spouses really discover who they are.
3. I Can’t Stand My Spouse’s Family
Is your spouse’s family too involved in your life? Do you feel like you’re never good enough or do you feel like you don’t have any privacy? Do you feel like your spouse values the opinion of their parents and siblings more than yours? If your answer is “yes” to any one or more of these questions, join the club. Sometimes, a spouse’s relationship with their family can actually hurt, not help their marriage, especially when the family makes their son or daughter-in-law feel unaccepted or like their opinion doesn’t count as much as theirs.
4. My Spouse is Lazy
The division of responsibilities can be a huge issue for some married couples. If one spouse is earning all the money, caring for the children and the house, resentment can build until it reaches the boiling point. While each couple’s circumstances vary, this is one reason why a lot of working women file for divorce. Even though they’re working as much, if not more than their husbands, it’s not unusual for women to end up handling a much larger share of the household chores and family responsibilities. Of course, this happens to husbands as well. Divorce over the division of chores? Believe us, it can be a factor.
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